Don’t live for the approval of others; You Can’t please Everyone

Don’t live for the approval of others; You Can’t please Everyone


Scripture Text Galatians 1;10  "Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ".

Most people spend a lot of time trying to please everyone. Do you feel extremely disappointed if someone has a bad impression of you?

Many people suffer from a compulsory need for approval for whatever they do or say. They do not feel good about themselves. For some the search for approval becomes an actual addiction. That turns us into “people-pleasers.”

We need to care about everyone and we should listen to the opinions of godly men and women. However, the only thing that really matters is whether or not we are pleasing to God. Looking good to everyone else is not nearly as important as pleasing God.

In James 4:4 James asks “Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.”

Martha &Mary

Martha was busy trying to get a meal ready and make everything perfect for these special guests. We don’t know if she was trying to please all of them. Whatever her motives, she was wearing herself out. And that’s what happens to any of us when we try to please everyone.

Meanwhile, Mary had joined the disciples, sitting at the feet of Jesus and listening to his teaching. Martha came in and said, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” Jesus’ answer has a lot to teach us. “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “You are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:40-42

Only ONE thing is needed – and that’s what Mary chose – to sit at the feet of Jesus and enjoy a relationship with Him. What Mary chose is to focus on pleasing God – and that is the only thing that really matters.


Daniel 1:8 Daniel purposed in his heart not to eat of the food Nebuchadnezzar had provided. This young boy had had the precepts of God  and integrity – so instilled in him, that it mattered to him whether or not he pleased God. It didn’t matter what everyone around him was doing.

Chapter 6 of Daniel, verse 10 reads, “Now when Daniel knew that the writing was signed, he went home. And in his upper room, with his windows open toward Jerusalem, he knelt down on his knees three times that day, and prayed and gave thanks before his God, as was his custom since early days.”

It wasn’t like Daniel wasn’t aware of the new decree. He was completely aware, but that didn’t matter to him. Again, pleasing God was the most important thing to him. 


Jesus certainly understood this. He never let the opinions of people divert him from His focus on the Father’s will. The people cried out, "Hosanna! Hail King of the Jews!” Then … a week later, the same crowd screamed, "Crucify him!".

If people despised and rejected Jesus, why should any of us spend our lives trying to please people?

When we try to please everybody, we not only wear ourselves out … we’ll ruin any chance of success.

There is no way we can live to please God and live to please people at the same time.

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